Why are middle school students feeling the need to date and have relationships at a young age?

Posted by admin on February 20th, 2010 and filed under middle school | 28 Comments »

When I was a middle school student we didn’t date girls or even fully understand the concept of it until grade 7-8 ish. We were interested in street hockey, pogs, pokemons and other KID stuff.
I think the problem is the influences of media putting pressure on kids to be certain ways and the fact there are very few role models left.
What are your opinions and viewpoints of middle school dating?

I think it is scary. I’m 17 and I’ve never been in a relationship. I don’t see the point unless you’re older and looking to settle down. Dating is good for the experience but I don’t think kids should start that until at least their junior year of high school. I think middle-schoolers have the idea that relationships are solly sex oriented. Not everyone, but too many kids are having oral sex by the time they reach 7th grade. I was astounded when I heard this. It is a disgrace and America is headed for destruction.

28 Responses

  1. Gazuzu Wizlantis Says:

    Because sex is sexy and you where obviously a looser if you couldn’t get any action in 6th grade.
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    I’m your teacher.

  2. Tom D Says:

    Who cares?
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  3. Sammy Says:

    well
    things change
    and they do STUFF and that is y!!
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  4. ~bROkeN~ Says:

    welcom to the twenty 1st centery
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    um times have really changed

  5. banana Says:

    middle school is way too young to be dating. why should you be thinking about having sex and picking a life partner when you’re just entering puberty??
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  6. Cassandra (ILY Vince) Says:

    i think it is bad, it just encorages them to have sex younger.
    i dont’ know why parents allow it. i think a good age to start dating is grade nine or ten
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  7. Yukari Says:

    I got married in 7th grade.
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  8. Alis G Says:

    we want to be teens already not pre-teens!!! we grow up to fast and we just want to be noticed by everyone else…
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  9. tim Says:

    hmmmmm grade 7-8ish is middle skool!
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  10. Greg F Says:

    I blame hip-hop
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  11. Kenny F Says:

    I didn’t date in middle school but I know people who did, most of the time it wasn’t real dating but the times have changed and kids date earlier now
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  12. The Fool. Says:

    Movies and music videos suggest to kids that you have to be sexual to be cool. I thought I was the only one who cared.
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  13. Madison Says:

    Its because some think that if they dont get a boyfriend fast enough they’ll never get one. Also its to get more popular. i went through it a few years ago….and now i think it was just stupid.
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    Just me

  14. Dwindling Says:

    It makes them feel older more mature, old is cool now for some reason. Ah yes and modern books, movies, tv, music its all there.
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  15. PLIES R&B STAR(YaNkEe G Is BaCk) Says:

    i think that when the guys go out to like a movie with some girl he likes, he gets horny and before you know it the girl is giving him a b*l*o*w*j*o*b* and shes pregnant. they dont know the consicunces.
    but they’ll pay 1 day!
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  16. It's me Says:

    Because they’re just starting to hit their teenage years and it’s the time when members of the opposite sex ( or sometimes, members of the same sex) start to become more of an interest… I think it’s perfectly natural… The only thing that does bother me is when I hear of middle school students becoming much more sexually active then they should be…
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  17. Cadburys1995 Says:

    Yes, i agree with you a out the media thing.
    It’s being made out that you have to have been round the block a few times to be cool and liked.
    And maybe it’s also because of peer pressure- if one of your friends starts dating someone, they start bragging and start saying why don’t you get a girlfriend?
    :(
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  18. dohnnyjepp Says:

    I wonder the same thing. Kids should go outside and play!
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  19. hunny with a question Says:

    I think it’s fine for them to have bf or gf, but not dating. Unless they go with a group or they see each other at birthday parties. Also, if they go to each others house and meet the parents, but they should "date". This is for later in life. I don’t know why people at such a young age are getting pregnant and stuff. I mean at least wait until your out of school. Also, you should start dating in high school, that is what it’s all about..
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    My personal opinion.. :)

  20. Pineapple Shortcake Says:

    I’ve read that kids are hitting puberty earlier. Yet, at the same time, it seems like there are fewer responsibilites to delegate to children, so I doubt they are maturing emotionally as quickly….scary, right?

    But I agree with the media thing … Kids used to go to dances and hold hands and whatnot in middle school, practicing, so to speak. But now they are having sex and other things that they aren’t ready to handle because it is all that is on televsion, the radio, etc.
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  21. Smiles =) XoXo Says:

    I think it’s disgusting to be honest to be seing kids that are like 11 years old dating.
    And it seems there’s so much pressure between kids that age to be dating or else they wont ”fit in” or be ”cool enough” and it’s really sad to see.
    It’s no wonder they are having kids at as low as the age of 13 nowadays.
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  22. Denisse10908 Says:

    Haha I’m 16, and that’s what I’M thinking, yea when I was in middle school, I had crushes but never really had a "relationship".

    Too young to go through that, I see these little middle school kids saying there "heart broken" GAH I’m gonna be a senior next year and I’m barely going through my "first" heartbreak.

    They sure don’t see what’s coming in High School
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  23. the great cb Says:

    well i was told by my dad that its because of the steroids they put in our food and it makes us get to puberty sooner said you used get there around 15 -16
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  24. Love, Melyza Says:

    Well, right now I’m a freshman, single.
    Ans when i was in middle school, Every single one of my friends (girls and boys) was dating somebody. And when they weren’t they said they felt ‘lonely’ and ‘unloved’. I never dated anyone in middle school because i thought it was just flat out stupid.
    I suppose it’s just the hormones in that age. And you see your sister having a boyfriend and you just want to have one too.
    The media does have a lot to do with it.
    All those kid shows show 11 or 12 years olds, dating.
    And it goes to the point that it seems normal to date at a young age.

    That’s My point of View :)
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  25. Finns Says:

    I think it is scary. I’m 17 and I’ve never been in a relationship. I don’t see the point unless you’re older and looking to settle down. Dating is good for the experience but I don’t think kids should start that until at least their junior year of high school. I think middle-schoolers have the idea that relationships are solly sex oriented. Not everyone, but too many kids are having oral sex by the time they reach 7th grade. I was astounded when I heard this. It is a disgrace and America is headed for destruction.
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  26. Tony Says:

    Kids are for the most part the same as we were, except no more pokemon and pogs. When i was in middle school i didn’t really date, and i never even came close to having sex, but other middle schoolers, even back in my days were still becoming sexually active. Now it’s the same, there still are good kids that hold on to there innocents, but like before, there are the rebels. Now that we’re adults it is so easy to forget how we ourselves were back then, but i do agree that society has changed in terms of its openness to sexuality. Every were you turn, there’s sex. We live in a sex-usual society, turn on the radio station that kids listen to nowadays, every single song has something to do with sex, every show has something to do with sex, even commercials some how find ways to incorporate sex into there advertisement. In the end, its the parents job to shield their children from what they can, and explain to them what they can’t.
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  27. morning_star_seeker Says:

    Thanks to the Damn Disney Channel and Nickelodeon and their ‘Adult’ style Teen shows, kids are getting an early lesson.
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  28. G Girl Says:

    i agree wiht you in that the media is making a large influence in the lives of the kids, whether the parents know it or not. My parents never let my kid brothers watch anything over pg-13 but they would go to their "friend’s" houses and watch R movies, and who knows if anything else. So friends don’t help either, especially when they have much older siblings living with them…

    lol my mom saw that question and she said it’s because they know the world is about to end so they wanna get some before it;s over (she’s a JW, i’m not, but whatever)

    hope it helped somewhat
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